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"As it is in is outside" ...


 This is a well-known universal law that we tend to forget very often. If we extrapolate this law to the more physical terrain, we can verify that the better we feel the more we have to fix, take care and pamper ourselves; So does our home, which is an extension of our physical body.


The more crowded, messy and dirty our house is the more fatigue and lack of energy we will feel because the house is nothing more than a reflection of ourselves.

 If you find yourself a little depressed, scattered, tired, apathetic or if you just feel like making space for new projects and moods, I invite you to put your house in order to put your life in order.

 In this post, I want to share the keys that I have just learned to cure a sick house and that I want to share with you because I find the sea simple and I think many of them, if not all, are within everyone's reach.

The 10 tips to make your home and your life shine


 Decorating and renovating your home is not only creating a beautiful, if not pleasant, functional and finally, a way to fix your life.

1. EVALUATE THE AMOUNT OF LIGHT


 Light is life, energy, and food. The gloomy houses do not like almost anyone.

 Mind you, if you like to walk around the house always in the dark, it can be a symptom of depression or laziness. It is essential that your house has light to breathe life.

 It is also very important that the amount of light is adequate, too much light can harm your rest.

2. ORDER AND CLEANING


 Dirt and disorder generate chaos, dispersion, and fatigue.

 If your house looks very messy, dirty or crowded you have no choice but to practice the law of detachment by pulling or donating that which is no longer useful.

 Getting rid of what we do not need is making room for new things and projects that are to come.

3. VENTILATION


 Houses need to breathe, especially when they feel very dense. Every day it is necessary to ventilate even a little so that the air is renewed. The pleasant smells raise your vibration and improve your mood.

 Candles, incenses, essential oils are ideal for setting your home, much better if you opt for natural products instead of chemicals.

4. REST AREA


 Create a personalized atmosphere in a place that invites rest and reconnection.

 Arrange a personal space where you can meditate, relax, read a book or just rest.

 A rocking chair, a small lamp, a cushion and a blanket can not be missing in this area.

5. OBJECTS WITH GOOD WAVE


 Throw or donate those objects that you have associated with bad memories or that have not just convinced you.

 Also get rid of photos that give you emotions of sadness or melancholy, opt for those that transmit good memories or you can choose to remove them all.

 Decorating with objects that transmit good feelings is something very personal, only you know the things that motivate you and provide a spark.

6. MAKE YOUR BED EVERY DAY


 Making the bed as soon as you wake up is the click that makes you take real awareness of when your day starts and ends. There are studies that say that people who make their bed on a regular basis are more productive.

7. NATURAL PLANTS


 Plants are life and health. Incorporate plants according to the space of your house.

 If your house is large or has a terrace you can put more plants and bigger. For smaller environments, better smaller plants.

 Better if we opt for plants with leaves of rounded form because they soften the environment.

8. PLAY WITH COLORS


 The colors help break the routine and give a lot of play when it comes to creating environments.

 It uses the range of colds for the bedrooms or rest area and the more energetic for areas where there is more movement like the dining room or children's play areas.


9. OUT OF ELECTRICITY


 In your bedroom, you avoid electrical devices like computer, TV, mobile and others because they emit waves that alter your rest and can cause the next day to rise as if they had given a real beating.

 Equally get your books out of there, the bedroom is a rest area and has to be oblivious to any activity.

10. MINIMALISM


 Less is a thousand times more. These old and crowded houses are not only out of fashion but also generate stress and stress.

 Having the essentials is fundamental to encourage relaxation especially when your home is very small. If your house is very small the order will make it look bigger.

 In small houses, it is very important to bet on very functional furniture and have everything very well collected.

 I hope this post has been useful and that you tell me in the comments to the post thread that you think these keys to start making changes in your house (life).

 Remember that your house together with your body is the temple in which you live.


When I truly loved myself, I understood that under any circumstance, I was in the right place at the right time. And then, I could relax. Today I know that it has a name ... self-esteem.
When I truly loved myself, I could perceive that my anguish and my emotional suffering are but signs that I am against my own truths. Today I know that this is ... authenticity.
When I truly loved myself, I stopped wishing my life was different, and I began to see that everything that happens contributes to my growth. Today I know that this is called ... maturity.
When I really loved myself, I began to understand why it is offensive to try to force a situation or a person, only to achieve what I want, even knowing that it is not the moment or that the person (maybe myself) is not prepared. Today I know the name of that is ... respect.
When I truly loved myself, I began to get rid of everything that was not healthy: people and situations, everything and anything that pushed me down. At first, my reason called selfishness to that attitude. Today I know it's called ... love for oneself.
When I really loved myself, I stopped worrying about not having free time and gave up making big plans, I abandoned the mega-projects of the future. Today I do what I find right, what I like when I want to and at my own pace. Today I know, that is ... simplicity.
When I truly loved myself, I gave up on wanting to always be right, and with that, I made many fewer mistakes. Thus I discovered the ... humility.
When I truly loved myself, I gave up reliving the past and worrying about the future. Now, I stand in the present, which is where life happens. Today I live one day at a time. And that is called ... fullness.
When I truly loved myself, I understood that my mind can torment me and disappoint me. But when I put it to the service of my heart, it is a valuable ally. And this is ... how to live!
We should not be afraid to question ourselves ... Even the planets collide and the stars are born out of chaos.
Charles Chaplin.
The immune system protects us against all kinds of infectious agents that abound in the environment. In fact, it is impossible to control our exposure to viruses, bacteria, and other pathogens, but if we have a strong and healthy immune system, our chances of getting sick are reduced. 


However, psychologists like Dan Gilbert of Harvard University believe that we also have a psychological immune system. And people who strengthen it can deal better with adversity and problems, without adding too much anxiety, depression or hopelessness.

 According to this theory, just as there are people who are virtually immune to viruses and almost never get sick, there are also those who can face the worst tragedies with more strength of mind while others crumble, sadden or stress to the smallest problems.

 However, the truth is that we all have a psychological immune system. Studies show that about 75% of people manage to find a new balance that allows them to be happy after two years of suffering a great tragedy.

 The psychological immune system would be responsible for building a safety net that will protect us from the effects of chronic stress and give us strength to withstand the most terrible events. While the biological immune system keeps us alive to protect us from disease, the psychological immune system dampens the impact of emotional bumps and allows us to move forward.

Overestimated as a strategy to protect self-esteem


 The psychological immune system activates different strategies to protect us, one of which is to prevent us from hating our failures. That is why we tend to attribute the problems to external factors, such as the government, an incompetent subordinate or just bad luck. 

 In this way, we preserve our self-esteem and do not feel so depressed, frustrated or hopeless. In fact, a study conducted at Virginia Commonwealth University found that people who are prone to depression actually have a more objective view of the world and are often more logical and reflective. On the contrary, those who maintain a more optimistic attitude is because they put into practice certain biases that help them to deal better with their reality.

 So it is not surprising that when we compare ourselves with others we think that we are more intelligent, that we have less prejudice, that we are more ethical and that we will live more years.

 It is not a negative thing. In fact, psychologists at the University of California claim that positive states of self-affirmation, even positive illusions, help to reduce our stress level. These investigators found that incurable diseases progressed more slowly in people who harbored optimistic illusions, even if they were unrealistic since they have a protective effect. 

 From the biological point of view, this is due, in part, to the action of the hypothalamic-pituitary-adrenal axis, which regulates from digestion and body temperature to mood, physical energy, and the biological immune system. This axis also modulates our response to stress, so it has been appreciated that people with a positive perception have a healthier hypothalamic-pituitary-adrenal axis than those who have a more negative perception of life and themselves.

 It is only necessary to make sure that we do not lose too much contact with reality and that these illusions are not so unreal that they end up hurting us.

Our mind thinks positively automatically


 Several studies suggest that people have an unfounded fear of negative events. We usually imagine the worst consequences and we assume that we will react very poorly but in reality when we face those problems we usually respond better than we thought. This is because we normally underestimate our resilience. Consequently, neither positive nor negative events change our lives as much as we thought.

 In fact, when it comes to dealing with adversity, it is best to let our unconscious take over. A study carried out at Florida State University revealed that when thoughts burst into our minds about death, whether it's own or that of people we want, our brain does not remain paralyzed in negativity or fear for long but Who tries to move toward more positive thoughts.

 In the experiment, psychologists trained more than 100 people to think about their own death. Another group was asked to imagine an unpleasant event, like going to the dentist. Then they presented to them some roots of words that they had to complete, like "go", from which they could write terms like "government" or "joy". Thus the researchers evaluated their unconscious emotional state. 

 They found that those who had thought about death used to choose more positive words, such as "joy." This mechanism that occurs at the unconscious level is the psychological immune system at work, trying to mitigate the effects of pain and suffering, leading us to see the positive part of life, even when we are facing the most desolate events.

How to strengthen the psychological immune system?


 The psychological immune system is composed of two essential elements: the resilience component, which means facing adversity without collapsing and strengthened, and the component of eudaimonia, which states that sustainable happiness does not come from pleasure but from the meaning of life. Therefore, to strengthen your psychological immune system you must:

 - Find the meaning of life. People who have a why are able to find the how even in the most difficult conditions. If you have a good reason to live, adversity will hit you but you will get stronger.

 - Learn to focus on the positive. Resilient people are those who, even in adversity, do not collapse and are able to find the positive in problems. Every situation, however bad it may seem, entails learning, which at the same time becomes an opportunity for growth.

 - Practice detachment. It is about understanding life as the course of a river, where everything comes and everything goes. In this way you can accept both good and bad things, knowing that they are not eternal and that, sooner or later, pain and suffering will disappear.

 - Master the attention. David Kessler, who specializes in death and suffering, believes that most mental illnesses are caused by something that obsessively captures our attention. Therefore, if we are able to dominate our attention, we will develop a more effective immune system. In fact, the great Indian teacher Shantideva stated: " a distracted person lives continuously in the jaws of mental afflictions ."